Nobody is meant to go through life alone. We all want someone to share our load with. Someone to talk to, to adventure with, to laugh at, to depend on. It’s an important position to fill, yet so many of us settle into relationships instead of looking for the ones that are best for us.
Why is that? Do we not care who we end up with? Do we not care about wasting time with the wrong people? I think oftentimes we fail to see the bigger picture. We get lonely and go for whatever comes along, instead of holding out for what’s best for us. Holding out for a hero…
I’m sorry I had to hahah
I think the problem with a lot of people my age is that they’re not asking the right questions. I know I’ve fallen victim to it countless times. You think, “I like him/her.” But why?
What are his/her beliefs? Do you share those beliefs? Do you mind not sharing them? What is he/she passionate about? What can he/she talk about for hours? What makes his/her eyes light up? What makes him/her laugh? What makes him/her cry? What inspires him/her? What moves him/her? What are his/her favorite books, movies, and tv shows? Why?
Do you like him/her for all these reasons, or because of his/her appearance?
Asking all these questions may seem “picky,” but aren’t you worth it? Don’t you deserve to be picky?
It is my firm belief that we all deserve the best. We deserve to be with that person who is going to make us better, who will inspire us to be the best that we can be, and we’re not going to find that person without asking the tough questions. There is no need for you to settle.
Don’t be afraid of being choosy. Dare to live on your own until the right person comes along. I promise you’re strong enough to do so. Don’t settle.
I’ve heard that it’s pretty great when you find that person who compliments you perfectly. Until then, you and I can be in this together 😉
Stay sweet,
Caroline
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